tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16504418269685684962024-03-13T03:05:47.754-05:00Why Do Black People Do The Things They Do?KDMhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10965938190202494720noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1650441826968568496.post-59332262604685236972010-01-11T22:02:00.002-06:002010-01-11T22:04:04.878-06:00Do I Smell?Do I Smell?<br />By Kevin D. Moore<br /><br />The other day, I met a man with a great year long tan from Kenya, Africa. Yup…you guessed it… He is a black man. Or…you could say that he is an African American. Actually, that is incorrect. He is an African who lives in America with a great year long tan. Ok… He is a black man. <br /><br />Well, once I knew that he was from Africa, I became curious as to his experiences here in America as a black man. I wondered if he may have experienced some of the same things I experienced in my life or some of the things other black Americans have experienced. <br /><br />Once I asked the question, I became very surprised by his answer. He informed me that at first he wasn't aware of being treated any differently than any other person (e.g. white, brown, yellow, etc.) He stated that, regardless of how he was treated, he probably wouldn't have noticed the difference because in Kenya the issue of difference is not color based but "tribe" based. He said that there are over 40 tribes in Kenya and all have a different culture, tradition, and way of life. So, as a result, he was never truly aware of differences associated with color.<br /><br />Unfortunately, after living in America for some time (which he loves), he slowly became aware of some of our American color issues. He said that he didn't really know that he was being looked at differently until he had a memorable eye opening train ride in our nation's capital.<br /><br />So… He tells me that he was sitting in a seat on the train. Being raised in a tribe that taught manners and courtesies, he slide over as far as possible on the two person seat to ensure that there would be plenty of room for another person to sit down. He said that on that day the train was extremely full. But after awhile, he noticed that none of the white people would sit next to him. Instead, they would stand. He even tried to provide more room on the seat. But still…no white person would sit next to him. <br /><br />For the life of him, he couldn't figure out what was wrong…<br /><br />Now, I have to tell you… While listening to this story, my mind briefly wandered as I pictured the situation in my head. I could imagine him sitting there trying to figure out what was wrong. Not understanding color issues in America, I could actually see him begin to wonder if maybe the problem was that he was unpleasing to another's senses. In other words…maybe he smelled bad!!! I could see him trying to identify the offending area without anyone noticing what he was doing. I could see the distressed look on his face as he tried unsuccessfully to find where the smell was coming from.<br /><br />At this moment, my mind refocused on him as he stated to me how bad he felt that white people were not sitting next to him. He said that he felt so bad that he finally stood up so that others might then be willing to sit down. And, he was right. Once he got up, white people started to use this now fully vacant seat. <br /><br />While standing, he said that he was still trying to figure out what the problem was. It wasn't until some months later and after numerous train rides that he realized what the problem might be. Needless to say, he was not happy with his realization.<br /><br />I thought I could hear the pain in his voice. I must admit that I wanted to ease his pain and tell him that it had nothing to do with his color. I wanted to tell him that the reason white people would not sit next to him was because he smelled. Of course, that wasn't true. He didn't smell but at least he could do something about that. <br /><br />To be honest this is the first time in my life where asking the question "Do I Smell?" brings more joy than having to ask "Am I The Wrong Color?".<br /><br />Either way, having to ask either question…really stinks!<br /><br /> <br />Copyright © 2010 Knowledge Driven & Moore LLC. All Rights Reserved.KDMhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10965938190202494720noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1650441826968568496.post-77112013742145733862009-05-08T12:45:00.001-05:002009-05-08T12:46:56.337-05:00Painful To Be FamousPainful To Be Famous<br />By Kevin D. Moore<br /><br />Like so many others in this world, I too longed to be famous at one point in my life. I too, like many others in this world, was drawn to all of the positive possibilities that fame could and would bring to my life. I too, looked at all the famous people - actors, singers, public officials, and sports professionals and imagined how great their lives were compared to mine. I could just imagine how great things would be if I were famous and had phenomenal amounts of money, screaming crowds of people requesting my autograph, and everyone else - the common people - wanting to be just like me. <br /><br />Imagine all the good I could do with my fame. Imagine, with phenomenal amounts of money, what I could give to charity thus making life easier for others. Imagine, all the autographs I could sign thus bringing and giving much joy to all the fans. And just imagine, the good example I could be for so many that would aspire to be like me resulting in a much better world. Wow, I could do anything, be anything, and more importantly be extremely happy if only I were famous. <br /><br />Since I considered myself a fairly talented individual, I figured that fame wouldn't take long to achieve. For starters, I began reaching for my dream by acting in one of my high school plays. Although, I didn't have the lead role, I just knew that the critics and others would see my abilities and as a result I would become a "Shooting Star." Unfortunately, things didn't exactly go as expected. Instead of being a "Shooting Star", my acting career turned out to be more like a "Star-fish" out of water.<br /><br />However, I didn't let that disappointment in acting fame deter me from stardom. So, I decided to become famous through my singing abilities. Wow, what a difference a day makes! I actually had two songs released to the world. I couldn't believe how great being famous was. Well, Ok, maybe I wasn't "big" famous but at least I was a "little" famous. Ok...Ok... I wasn't famous at all. The most fame I got was dancing to my own song in a couple of dance clubs. And to make it worse, I probably danced by myself. Not much fame there but again I would not be deterred from my right to be famous and receive all of the pleasures that fame would bring.<br /><br />So…I wrote a book, became a motivational speaker, and have been a guest on many radio shows across the nation. And needless to say, everything I've done to date is now paying off. Fame has finally come!!! No matter where I go, whether it is on the street, in an airport, or in a public restroom (go figure) I'm recognized and approached by adoring fans.<br /><br />Only one problem - all these fans think I'm somebody else! As it turns out, it seems that in-person I seem to resemble the actor, director, and producer named Tyler Perry. What a let down... Now, don't get me wrong. I am a fan of Tyler Perry's myself, however, I wanted to be famous on my own accord. <br /><br />Imagine, how painful it is to want to bring joy to others through fame and then have that very fame bring hurt and disappointment to others when they discover and realize that you are not who they thought you were. I must admit that at first it was fairly humorous and flattering. That is until I started to focus on the other person's reactions after coming to their disappointed conclusion. Of course, they don't blame me personally for not being Tyler Perry but the "high" and "low" that they experience are there and obvious "none the less."<br /><br />It's funny, not once did I ever believe that fame wasn't everything I thought and many others thought it would be. That is until now. I guess my mother and father were right when they said be careful what you wish for - you might just get it!<br /><br /> <br />Copyright © 2009 Knowledge Driven & Moore LLC. All Rights Reserved.KDMhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10965938190202494720noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1650441826968568496.post-6544492473054591432008-09-18T21:05:00.002-05:002008-09-18T21:09:51.846-05:00Stupid AmericanStupid American<br />By Kevin D. Moore<br /><br /><br />As much as I hate to admit it, I knew a guy who must have been one of the stupidest Americans around. The most ironic thing about this guy was that he was an intelligent person but absolutely had no clue how stupid he was.<br /><br />This American's stupidity manifested itself in his support for one of two Presidential Candidates.<br /><br />During the Presidential Race, he listened to both sides and watched their Ads. And, using or not using his God given talent of reasoning, he made a decision to support a specific Candidate. Unfortunately, that decision was stupid.<br /><br />For example:<br /><br />He actually believed that the potential Leader of this great nation of values would not purposely spin, taint, or tell half truths about the other Candidate. Stupid!<br /><br />He actually believed that he did not have to do any research on his own given that the News Media would definitely ensure that there was no foul play. In other words, the New Media would establish a "No Spin Zone." Stupid!<br /><br />He actually believed that fellow citizens would be outraged if there was the slightest hint that a Candidate running for the President of the United States was "Spinning" out of control. Stupid!<br /><br />You know, it's amazing how smart I have become since the last Presidential Race. My eyes have been opened. I'm no longer that Stupid American.<br /><br /><br />Copyright © 2008 Knowledge Driven & Moore LLC. All Rights Reserved.KDMhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10965938190202494720noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1650441826968568496.post-14288060685721918972008-03-30T22:31:00.001-05:002008-03-30T22:35:10.270-05:00Grandma Got Thrown Under The Bus!Grandma Got Thrown Under The Bus!<br />By Kevin D. Moore<br /><br />Recently, Senator Barack Obama gave a speech on race relations in America. During that speech, he gave a very personal example of how issues associated with race can hit close to home. <br /><br />Specifically, the example he gave involved his grandma on his mother's side whose tan was not as good as his for as long as his. In other words, his grandma was White. While citing this example, Barack said that his grandma helped raise him, had sacrificed for him, and truly loved him. And, of course, he truly loved her back.<br /><br />However, although his grandma truly loved him, she had confessed that she was fearful of Black men who passed her on the street and she would sometimes say things in a negative manner about Black people that would make him cringe. <br /><br />As a result of this very personal example, there have been people that have not viewed nor received Barack's comments in a positive light. In fact, some have said that Barack needlessly threw his grandma under the bus! <br /><br />Well, I disagree... Furthermore, I truly appreciate that he was willing to provide such a personal experience that resonates in so many people that live in the United States. The fact is that we (Americans) are still dealing with the baggage associated with racial issues derived from our past. Of course, there are many Americans today who do not see these issues, may never have directly added to these issues, or do not view these issues as hitting close to home. But unfortunately, these issues are still there, none the less, and, for many, do hit close to home.<br /><br />However, as reflected in Barack's speech, these issues are not one sided no matter how close they hit to home.<br /><br />For me, approximately a year ago, while walking out of a very large Mall in a racial mixed area, I was called something that I had not been called in years!<br /><br />Unfortunately, while walking to my parked car, a taxi cab slowly pulled up next me. The cab<br />was driven by a White man. Needless to say, I expected him to ask me if I needed a ride or maybe he needed directions. I was wrong on both accounts. What he wanted instead was to yell and call me a "NIGGER!" Upon satisfying himself, he quickly drove off. <br /><br />Now as you can probably guess, I was somewhat enraged although I did not show it (I did not want to empower him or the word he used.) But that is not the point of this story. I wish it were but it is not.<br /><br />The point is that after being yelled at, the first thought that entered my mind was that I could not believe that he called me this because of the way I was dressed… You see, I was dressed in a business suit. I not only looked "Corporate", but felt "Corporate", and for whatever reason felt somewhat part of the "Majority."<br /><br />The problem with this whole thought process was that somehow I initially thought that being called a "NIGGER" would be more appropriate if I was wearing stereotypically different clothes.<br /><br />WRONG ANSWER! What was I thinking?<br /><br />My initial thought demonstrates to me that I probably have some issues of my own deep down inside. Fortunately, I quickly put myself in check. But I had thought this none the less. Ironically, if you ask those who are close to me they will tell you that I probably do not have a prejudiced bone in my body. But obviously, this was a failing moment that hit close to home.<br /><br />So why tell you this? Better yet, why throw myself under the bus?<br /><br />Because, personal experiences tend to be more meaningful and credible to others and I want to do my part in helping America continue moving forward in its desire to truly and totally be united as a nation. If that means throwing myself under the "so called" bus to demonstrate that there are two sides of the racial divide and that these issues hit closer to home than we may realize… Then so be it…<br /><br />I guess when you really think about it sometimes being thrown under the bus is a good thing…<br /><br /><br />Copyright © 2008 Knowledge Driven & Moore LLC. All Rights Reserved.KDMhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10965938190202494720noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1650441826968568496.post-51879888449278330422008-02-10T21:39:00.000-06:002008-02-10T21:42:32.089-06:00Catch 22Catch 22<br />By Kevin D. Moore<br /><br />Like most children, when I was a child growing up, I aspired to be something great. My aspiration was that of the President of the United States of America. Fortunately, my parents supported this level of desired leadership during my early formative years. They did not squash my dream. Instead they were supportive! <br /><br />It was not until I became a parent myself that I realized that my parents were truly torn between support and nonsupport in my endeavor to become the Leader of this Nation. Looking back in my memory, I can see the expressions on my parents' faces. As a child, I only saw the encouragement that they had. I did not notice the worry and concern that was simultaneously behind the encouragement. Come to think of it, I did notice that something was not quite right when I reached my teenage years and better understood the ways of the world. However, it was not until I was a parent that I truly understood.<br /><br />I say this because there has never been a President of the United States that has ever had the year long tan that I happen to have. In other words, there has never been a Black/African American or Multi-racial President. (Note: Please forgive me for stating the obvious…) <br /><br />Now, I do not know if you have noticed or not but I have, to date, not attempted to join the race to become President. Unfortunately, as much as I strive to be the best leader that I can be, I have also come to the harsh reality that I may be a "Big Chicken!" <br /><br />Like many, I have faced and for the most part overcome many small and large challenges in life. But there is one challenge that always seems difficult to face. That challenge is "Catch 22" especially as it relates to a Presidential Race. <br /><br />Here is what I noticed… Non-year long tan (i.e. White) candidates will and are expected to address the issues and concerns of the majority voters as well as those that are in the minority (e.g. Black, Hispanic, etc.) Many view this as just good politics. There generally is not a fear or concern that this type of candidate, if elected, is going to focus primarily on the issues associated with minorities. Again, it is just good politics to court minority voters.<br /><br />However, things seem to change when that candidate is themselves classified as a minority. For example, I have heard many majority voters state their concern that a minority candidate once in the White House would focus on minority issues which they believe would not be good overall for the Nation. To reduce this perception and fear, there is a likelihood that a minority candidate would focus more on majority issues. One might even argue that by addressing many of the majority issues the minority issues are addressed simultaneously. Needless to say, not everyone agrees with this.<br /><br />On the other hand, I have also heard many minority voters state their concern that a minority candidate is not focusing on minority issues and therefore will not effectively work to resolve these issues once in the White House. As result, some have said that they are voting for a majority candidate.<br /><br />Catch 22! What is a minority candidate to do?<br /><br />Answer: Face the challenge head on, address the issues, inspire, motivate, and more importantly convince the Nation that he or she can lead it. <br /><br /><br />Copyright © 2008 Knowledge Driven & Moore LLC. All Rights Reserved.KDMhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10965938190202494720noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1650441826968568496.post-27358372914315495372008-02-04T22:30:00.000-06:002008-02-04T22:33:51.745-06:00Easier Said Than DoneEasier Said Than Done<br />By Kevin D. Moore<br /><br />It's funny. Nothing is ever as easy as it seems.<br /><br />Take, for example, the 2008 Presidential Race. I once said, "Don't judge a book by its category." The point of that statement was that we should not vote for someone simply based on an associated category. In other words, don't vote for someone based on their race, gender, religion, or political party. Vote based on their position and stance on the issues.<br /><br />Well, I'm sorry to say it but this is proving to be a lot harder than I want to admit. As a matter of fact, it is proving to be extremely difficult and painful. Specifically, the pain and suffering that I am experiencing is due to the conflict created by pride, inspiration, perception, and the issues. In other words: Barack Obama.<br /><br />Now, I must be perfectly honest and frank. I do not agree, I repeat, I do not agree with all of Barack's positions and stances on the issues. And, based solely on all of his positions on the issues, I would not normally vote for him no matter what category he is in.<br /><br />I mention categories because there is one category that he and I both share. We both look like and are considered Black/African Americans. Of course, given my previous statement about what should and should not dictate how a person should vote, the fact that he and I share a category should not affect my voting rationale.<br /><br />But, I am finding this to be easier said than done. There is a part of me that is prideful and proud that a man in my racial category could one day be the Leader of this great nation during my lifetime. If he wins, I believe that many like racially categorized people as well as many others would be inspired to follow their dreams and would believe that anything is achievable in this country. I truly want to believe that we all have come a long way and have made tremendous progress towards looking out for our fellow man. <br /><br />Additionally, I believe that if Barack wins the perception of this Nation in the eyes of the rest of world would greatly improve. This win would demonstrate that American, for the most part, has overcome many of the problems that have plagued us since the days of "human owning human."<br /><br />Thus my dilemma. Do I not vote for him because I am not completely aligned with his positions on the issues or do I vote for him because we share a category and, if elected, I believe that his election could truly inspire any person that has felt like a minority in some way, shape, or form (e.g. race, gender, religion, etc?)<br /><br />Hmmm, not using categories sure is easier said than done.<br /><br />Copyright © 2008 Knowledge Driven & Moore LLC. All Rights Reserved.KDMhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10965938190202494720noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1650441826968568496.post-81430070055820843402008-01-08T22:35:00.000-06:002008-01-08T22:39:08.385-06:00Presidential Candidates: Don't Judge A Book By Its CategoryPresidential Candidates: Don't Judge A Book By Its Category<br />By Kevin D. Moore<br /><br />Does it really matter what category or group the future president of the United States is in? Should we really care?<br /><br />I say "No!" Some say, "Yes!" Some ask, "How can you possibly make such an important decision as to who to vote for without knowing what category or group a presidential candidate is in?" My response to this question is, "So what?"<br /><br />Call me old fashion but my life experiences have taught me that you can't judge a book by its cover (i.e. category or group.) Just because a person belongs to a political party, religion, gender, or race doesn't mean that they automatically stand for and support the same principles that may commonly be associated with any of those categories or groups.<br /><br />Sure you could take the easy way out and vote for a candidate based on a specific category but you may be shocked in the end when that candidate takes a stance that is opposite of what you thought the category stands for. Surprise!<br /><br />I know for many of you, I am preaching to the choir. However, there are so many that I am not preaching to. Perhaps these individuals should consider rethinking the criteria that they use to determine who to vote for. I can't tell you how many times I have been asked who I was voting for simply based on a category.<br /><br />Now to be honest, even I have thought about supporting a candidate that fits into a category or group that typically is aligned with some of my thoughts on certain issues and concerns. And I must admit that it is so much easier to vote this way. But deep down inside, I know that this method of selection is very naive. Again, the old saying that you can't judge a book by its cover comes to mind. Better yet, no matter the group or category, candidates are individuals and will make decisions the way they want. To think that a candidate makes decisions solely based on a category or group may not be the best use of brain power.<br /><br />I don't know about you but I believe that the only true way to judge a person is not by their category and affiliation to a group but by what they say and do. <br /><br />So, does it really matter what category or group the future president of the United States is in? Should we really care? Again, I say, "So what!" I don't care about the political party, religion, gender, or race of a presidential candidate. These aspects are nothing more than the candidate's cover. All I really care about are the principles of the candidate and what the candidate says and does (i.e. walk the walk and talk the talk.)<br /><br />The decision of who to vote for to be the next president of the United States is just too important! Don't make the mistake of missing what's on the inside. Let's not judge a book by its category. <br /><br /><br />Copyright © 2008 Knowledge Driven & Moore LLC. All Rights Reserved.KDMhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10965938190202494720noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1650441826968568496.post-24961576690591888172007-12-28T22:35:00.000-06:002007-12-28T23:26:59.652-06:00Political Correctness - Good or Bad?Political Correctness - Good or Bad?<br />By Kevin D. Moore<br /><br />As with anything good, too much of it can be bad. Unfortunately, this may have happened or is happening with Political Correctness (a.k.a. PC.)<br /><br />I must admit that I have been very happy with the kindlier gentler world that has resulted from the internalization of PC by my fellow brothers and sisters of the human race in America. Of course, for me, being PC all the time has not been easy. I have had my share of missteps just like anyone else.<br /><br />For example, I once stated that someone was deaf. I was immediately informed that I was not being PC and that the more appropriate term was hearing impaired. Upon realizing the error of my ways, I immediately changed my verbiage. The good thing was that being PC would help me not to offend anyone. However, I was later informed that stating that someone was hearing impaired was not PC and the proper term was in fact deaf. So here is the bad part; I am now confused! I do not know what to do or say. I was trying not to be offensive but was anyway (depending on whom you talked to.)<br /><br />Fortunately, my resolve and desire for the greater good (being PC) were not derailed by my confusion. This is especially true given the goodness that has personally been bestowed upon me. As a Black American, this goodness was manifested in the way that people addressed or referred to me. Specifically, I am for the most part no longer openly referred to as being a Boy, Colored, Negro, or the "N" Word all terms that I find offensive to some degree given their past history. And, thanks to PC, these words have almost been eradicated. This is a good thing!<br /><br />But as I mentioned earlier, too much of a good thing can be bad. For example, from a cultural perspective, many White Americans have said to me that they are afraid to say things reference Black Americans because it might not be PC. More importantly, they are highly concerned with the backlash that they may experience for not being PC or the pain that they may inadvertently cause.<br /><br />Unfortunately, this concern or fear to say the wrong thing is creating an environment where people are more unlikely to openly discuss issues, differences, or observations with respect to people. Without this dialogue, there is a tendency for people to continue to misunderstand each other, not improve relations, and limit social problem solving.<br /><br />In other words, we must communicate with each other if we ever hope to make this world a better place. In lies the problem. To improve communications, it is important to be PC so as not to offend. But it must be balanced. Too much PC can backfire and limit communications.<br /><br />That's where courage comes in. You and I must be courageous enough not to allow PC to limit our dialogue with others.<br /><br />Is there a greater possibility of offending someone through our courage? Absolutely!<br /><br />Will it be worth it in the end? Absolutely!<br /><br />Copyright © 2007 Knowledge Driven & Moore LLC. All Rights Reserved.KDMhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10965938190202494720noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1650441826968568496.post-19160220407543661792007-12-11T22:12:00.000-06:002007-12-11T22:18:13.637-06:00Courageous Conversations: The Importance of Interracial DialogueCourageous Conversations: The Importance of Interracial Dialogue<br />Friday, December 14, 2007; 10AM (Eastern)<br /><br />What would you do if you could ask any question you ever wanted about a group of people but were afraid to ask? What if the question was perceived as offensive, stupid or politically incorrect? Would you ask it? In order to promote inclusion and build bridges of understanding, we must be able to engage in courageous conversations that challenge untested assumptions. On this episode of Diversity Matters™ Kevin Moore, author of <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Ever-Wonder-Black-People-Things/dp/1595267387/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1197303274&sr=8-1">Did You Ever Wonder Why Black People Do the Things They Do?</a> discusses the challenges and opportunities in interracial dialogue. Kevin is a Chief Information Officer with the Federal Government, a Lieutenant Colonel in the U.S. Army Reserve, a graduate from West Point and President of <a href="http://www.knowledgedrivenandmoore.com/">Knowledge Driven & Moore</a>. Join co-hosts Judy Seidenstein and Richard Friend in this lively conversation by calling in with your questions, stories and comments at 866-472-5790. Listen to Diversity Matters™ live or on demand at <a href="http://www.diversitymatters.info/">http://www.diversitymatters.info/</a>.<br /><br />Please tune in!<br /><br />Richard & Judy<br />Diversity Matters is a forum for lively conversation about issues of diversity and inclusiveness. Through conversations with a wide range of key thought leaders and practitioners in the field, the show provides cutting-edge ideas, resources and tools that enable people and organizations to leverage diversity and inclusiveness for high performance. Copyright (C) 2007 Friend & Associates Inc. All rights reserved.KDMhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10965938190202494720noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1650441826968568496.post-1900327380977739782007-12-02T23:33:00.002-06:002007-12-02T23:36:31.192-06:00What In The World Is An African American Anyway?What In The World Is An African American Anyway? <br />By Kevin D. Moore<br /><br />This question was recently asked of me numerous times by White Americans, White Europeans, Black Americans, and others. The funny thing is that I have wondered this too. However, the interesting part about this question is the fact that people are asking it in the first place.<br /><br />When I think about it, something must not be right. I don't recall ever hearing anyone ask what is an Italian American or German American. So why would anyone ask what is an African American?<br /><br />I think the first aspect of my wonderment is that I can't seem to figure out how or when I (a year long tan American) stopped being identified as a Black American and started being identified as an African American. I'm sure someone has the answer. <br /><br />Unfortunately, it is a little fuzzy to me and it seems to be a little fuzzy to others as well. For myself, I'm pretty sure it has something to due with some of my ancestors who probably came from the continent of Africa so long ago. I'm also pretty sure that it has something to do with people wanting to be politically correct. I'm not sure how politically correct it is since I'm a little fuzzy about its use. But, this is what I know.<br /><br />First, I am an American that happens to be black with some ancestors who are more than likely from Africa.<br /><br />Second, I recently met a man from Nigeria (a country on the continent of Africa) who is a US citizen. During our conversation, he informed me that he is an African American or more accurately said a Nigerian American. Needless to say, after he pointed out that he was an African American, I began to ponder the use of the term as it applies to me.<br /><br />Third, I recently met a White American who lived in Africa for 15 years. Believing myself to be witty, I said, "Wow, you are an African American." I was not prepared for his response. He said, "That's funny because my 19 year old daughter speaks the language and considers herself an African American given that since the age of four Africa has been her home. Once again, I began to ponder the use of the term as it applies to me.<br /><br />Fourth, some White Americans were born in Africa and consider themselves African Americans. Once again, I ponder.<br /><br />Fifth, a White Frenchmen recently said to me that he has African friends in France and they simply don't understand why 4th and 5th generation Blacks in America are called and considered African Americans. Good question. As stated earlier, I continue to ponder.<br /><br />So, based on what I know, the second aspect of my wonderment is that if I'm an African American then what in the world are all these other people. They all seem to think they are African Americans. To be honest, I don't mind sharing this identification but these other folks do make me ponder.<br /><br />Although, I can't speak for everyone else, I'm perfectly happy with being identified as an American first who happens to have a year long tan (a.k.a. Black.)<br /><br />Right now, it doesn't seem that I have much of a say in what I am identified as other than the fact that I continue to ponder.<br /><br />Copyright © 2007 Knowledge Driven & Moore LLC. All Rights Reserved.KDMhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10965938190202494720noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1650441826968568496.post-82841521906177058192007-11-28T23:58:00.000-06:002007-11-29T00:03:01.903-06:00“The Allan Handelman Show” (FM Talk 101.1 – WZTK) “North Carolina's Superstation”November 28, 2007 3:00 PM (Central) - “The Allan Handelman Show” (FM Talk 101.1 – WZTK) “North Carolina's Superstation” <br /><br />All I can say is "WOW!" I was a guest on this show for 3 hours. The show was so good that the phone lines were swamped and some of the callers actually were "on hold" for over an hour waiting to ask questions. I can truly say that all involved (i.e. Listeners, Callers, Allan (Host), and Me) were trying to make a difference in America and our relations with other. Many stereotypes, myths, and perceptions of Black people were addressed. Unfortunately at this time a Podcast is not available; however, below are some questions and comments that occurred during the show. <br /><br />Question: Are colleges preparing Black athletes for the challenges they may be faced with once in Professional Sports? (This questions was a result of the recent tragic shooting death of Professional Football Player Sean Taylor)<br /><br />Comment/Question: A Black male caller, who is a Manager, believes that things are not right in the manner he is treated by his White Co-Manger and White Supervisor. He stated that he is the first Black person to serve in this Management position and cannot understand what the problem may be other than having something to do with his race. He asked for my opinion. Unfortunately, there wasn't a great deal of information; therefore, I gave the only answer I could (which had nothing to do with the issue of White vs. Black.) Sit down with your Co-Manger and Supervisor and discuss your concerns.<br /><br />Question: Why don't Black people wash their hair? <br /><br />Question: Why are some Blacks told by other Blacks that they are acting White for speaking proper English?<br /><br />Question: Why are Blacks bad tippers?<br /><br />Question via e-mail: Why do some Black people purposely walk too close to you?<br /><br />Comment/Question: Some time ago, a White man and two of his Black friends went to a predominately Black Bar to observe a Pay Per View Fight between Evander Holyfield and Mike Tyson. He stated that he and his friends were cheering for Evander and the majority of people in the Bar were cheering for Mike. Everything was fine until Evander starting beating Tyson. Once that happened, he said that the atmosphere in the bar changed reflected by his two Black friends being called Uncle Toms. He wanted to know why this happened.<br /><br />Question: Why doesn't Black people's hair get messed up?<br /><br />Question: Why do some Blacks sag their pants?<br /><br />Question: Why is it that Blacks speak with an accent?<br /><br />Question: Does your book address the fact that not all Blacks will act or react the way you do to questions? Answer: Yes.<br /><br />Comment/Question: A Black man was concerned that my book might being doing a disservice to Blacks and may not address the realities of what challenges Black people were facing and are still facing. So his question was, "Is your booking doing more harm than good?" He admitted up front that he had not read my book as of yet. Answer: Read the book. In other words, "Try it, You'll like it."<br /><br />Question: Why do some Black men urinate standing up in a public bathroom with the seat down? (This question surprised both the Host and me.)<br /><br />Question: Why do Blacks support another Black person if the evidence shows that the person is clearly guilty?<br /><br />Question: Does your book address complexion issues among Blacks? Answer: Nope. I'm saving that for another book.<br /><br />Question: Why are Black people so loud?<br /><br />Question: Why don't Black people view/value Dogs the way White people do?<br /><br />Question: Why do Black people call themselves African Americans when many are 4th and 5th generation Americans?<br /><br />Question: Why do Blacks say "Axe" instead of "Ask"?<br /><br />Needless to say, it was an interesting radio show. I believe that the show has caused many people to look at Black people and themselves in a different and positive manner.KDMhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10965938190202494720noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1650441826968568496.post-2121829776701048642007-11-18T21:26:00.001-06:002007-11-18T22:40:48.001-06:00Should White People Be Scared To Give Black People Compliments?Should White People Be Scared To Give Black People Compliments?<br />By Kevin D. Moore<br /><br />The answer is “no.” White people should not be scared to give Black people compliments. However, one probably wants to “think before speaking.” <br /><br />The reality is that there are many White people that are scared or apprehensive to give a Black person a compliment for fear that they may say the wrong thing. In today’s politically correct environment, society as a whole doesn’t want to offend others. This is especially true for Whites given the recent backlash felt by some well known Whites who have made comments about Blacks that resulted in a great deal of negative press and counter comments.<br /><br />Two such examples were the comments made by Bill O’Reilly (host of “The O’Reilly Factor” on Fox News) reference Sylvia’s Restaurant (Black patroned and owned) in Harlem and Senator Joe Biden’s comments about Senator Barack Obama when asked what he thought of him. Neither Bill O’Reilly nor Senator Joe Biden was quite prepared for the negative responses they would receive from the Black Community. To make matters worse, both men have stated that they absolutely meant no offense by their comments.<br /><br />Given the media attention of the backlash, is it any wonder that White people are scared or apprehensive to give Black people a compliment? This fear was recently demonstrated to me by a White man who recently sat next to me on an airplane. Ironically, sitting next to him on the other side was a Black female. All three of us were very friendly and felt very comfortable with each other. We were a Human Oreo Cookie. Given the comfort level experienced by the three of us, the man in the middle decided to relate to the lady and me a story and then ask a question that had been bothering him.<br /><br />He began by telling us that he recently saw a Black lady in a store whose jewelry and skin color, in combination, were very striking and beautiful to look at. He wanted to give her a compliment about how beautiful the combination was but he was afraid that somehow he would offend her in some way, shape, or form. He wanted to know from us if it would have been ok to give the lady a compliment.<br /><br />Although, I immediately wanted to answer his question, I felt it would be more appropriate and enlightening if our fellow travelling Black female were to respond first. Actually, I didn’t have much of a choice in the matter. This lady didn’t need any prodding and was very quick to respond. She said that it was good that he didn’t make the compliment because he probably would have offended her. The primary problem with his potential compliment was that he included the lady’s skin color.<br /><br />She asked him if he would have made the same statement to a White lady in regards to her jewelry and how great it looked with her skin color. He said no… he wouldn’t say that to someone White. Next she said, then why would you say it to someone Black. She explained that the Black person would probably feel that she was being slighted in someway given that she probably realized that he more than likely would not have made the same comment to a White lady. In other words, “Beauty is beauty.” If he were simply to say, “Wow, your jewelry looks great” that would be fine and would not be offensive.<br /> <br /> Let’s look at the earlier example I used reference Senator Joe Biden and Senator Barack Obama. When questioned about what he thought of Senator Obama, Senator Biden basically said that he thought Barack was clean cut, nice looking, and articulate. Now, here is how a great number of Blacks viewed the comment. “What?” “All Presidential Candidates should be clean cut and articulate!” Why would Barack be any different? As a result, a comment that was probably meant to be a compliment was viewed as insulting and offensive.<br /><br />Needless to say, our White traveling buddy was glad that he didn’t give what he thought was a compliment which could have caused an unintended negative reaction. Another way to say it may be, if it’s not good for the goose (White people), than it’s probably not good for the gander (Black people.) Simpler stated… if you wouldn’t say it to a White person, than you probably shouldn’t say it to a Black person. <br /><br />We all just have to “think before speaking...” <br /><br />Copyright © 2007 Knowledge Driven & Moore LLC. All Rights Reserved.KDMhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10965938190202494720noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1650441826968568496.post-90051689612738663302007-11-12T22:14:00.000-06:002007-11-12T22:18:34.471-06:00Noose – What’s The Big Deal?Noose – What’s The Big Deal?<br />By Kevin D. Moore<br /><br />Hey, come on. It’s a practical joke! What’s the big deal? No one really means any harm by it. Hmmm. <br /><br />Unfortunately, there are some people in America that actually believe that displaying a Noose in a tree or on a doorknob or anywhere, for that matter, is ok and is not harmful. To be honest, depending on who is saying it, I understand their position. That doesn’t mean I agree with it but I do understand it. <br /><br />To further clarify, the major concern I have is that some of these people are thinking and saying this for one of two reasons. The first is out of ignorance but I truly understand. The second is sinister and just plain wrong!<br /><br />Starting with the second reason, there are people who are purposely displaying the Noose to make a statement that things should be back the way they were when Black people were slaves in America. They long for the days of the oppression and lynching of Black people without any concern for negative outcomes for themselves (e.g. jail time.) They long for the days when the displaying of the Noose would strike fear into the heart and soul of Black people. These people truly understand what the Noose represents to most Black people and they want to exploit that to further their beliefs and desires.<br /><br />Now the first reason is definitely much different. And, please don’t get me wrong when I say that I understand it. I say this because although I understand it, I don’t like it. In actuality, I’m really angered by it. However, every time I start to get angry, I recall these sayings “He who is without sin...cast the first stone...” and “Pot calling the Kettle black.” In other words, don’t be a hypocrite. I recall these sayings because I have done the same thing that the first group of people have done. That is, I said things out of ignorance that others were extremely offended by. Needless to say, my ignorance didn’t make me a bad person and it doesn’t make others bad people. But once we become aware of our ignorance and the damage it can cause, we now have a choice. <br /><br />Slide over to the dark side and its sinister ways or lift the vale of ignorance and concern ourselves with the feelings of others. Like many Americans of all colors and creeds, I choose “concern.” And when it comes to the Noose and it being a practical joke and not being harmful, well...the bottom line is that it is extremely offense to many Blacks given our history and what it represents. “To be, or not to be” concerned: “that is the question.” <br /> <br />Copyright © 2007 Knowledge Driven & Moore LLC. All Rights Reserved.KDMhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10965938190202494720noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1650441826968568496.post-87674314693575617442007-10-23T21:31:00.000-05:002007-11-05T22:31:00.518-06:00“The Moffitt & Frankie Show” (101 The Fox – KCFX (FM)) “Kansas City’s Classic Rock Station”<a href="http://kcfx.stage.cumulus.net/mf/blog/archive/2007_10_01_archive.html"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5124727502505338210" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi-AyF5SoKeC2NzOapvEwAPIBjEjIwf6tZXg0W7mPtV7_PnusvCuwcjoLRe56f2ywuAuJs_7MA4G-5kbE-hEBZ7mubrP9Gjc_OwmD_nPSuXwLcV0dy2gtR-j8sN58iy7iwFwsUSObgO2eQ/s320/MoffitFrankieBlackTop.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div>October 17, 2007 7:00 AM (Central) - “The Moffitt & Frankie Show” (101 The Fox – KCFX (FM)) "Kansas City’s Classic Rock Station" This was a great show! Moffitt & Frankie led the way… Many questions, many answers. I truly look forward to appearing on this show again in the future.<br /></div><div></div><div></div><div><br /><a href="http://kcfx.stage.cumulus.net/mf/blog/archive/2007_10_01_archive.html">Click here to listen to the Interview on “The Moffitt & Frankie Show”.</a> Look for Friday, October 19 Ever wonder why…? and my picture in "October 2007".</div><br /><div></div><div></div>KDMhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10965938190202494720noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1650441826968568496.post-28448954205746150922007-10-14T23:14:00.000-05:002007-11-05T22:40:53.472-06:00“The Jim Korhan Show” (95 WASB) “The Revolution Is Now”October 14, 2007 9:20PM (Central) - “The Jim Korhan Show” (95 WASB) "The Revolution Is Now"<br /><br />Wow! What an Interview… This was an Interview like no other. I’m a little speechless. Thankfully, I wasn’t speechless on the air.<br /><br />Upon welcoming me to the show, the Interview started with the Host informing me that he and his co-Host/Sidekick, prior to me joining, were discussing why Black males have a certain large body part (and I don’t mean nose…). They said that they were told by one of their Black friends that the answer was “Government Cheese” (a.k.a. welfare cheese). This Interview was like being at an amusement park. It was one continuous wild ride!<br /><br />One of the themes mentioned throughout by the Host was that White people are scared of Black people. I responded that one of the reasons I wrote the book “Did You Ever Wonder Why Black People Do The Things They Do?” was to alleviate the perceived fear of Blacks by educating and informing others about Blacks. What’s funny is that after the Interview it was mentioned by the Hosts that they were a little scared just talking to me. I think they were joking…I hope…<br /><br />And as usual, the use of the “N” word by some Blacks came up again… After this discussion, the Host informed me that he wanted to start his own rap group and call it “HWA” (a.k.a. Honkies With an Attitude) in much the same manner as an earlier Black rap group called “NWA” (a.k.a. “N” word With an Attitude).<br /><br />As part of the “N” word follow on discussion, the Hosts discussed their frustration with being able to use this word with their Black friends but that they had to constantly look over their shoulders because one never knows who (especially Black people) might hear you and then want to punch you in the face.<br /><br />Like I said in the beginning… Wow! What an Interview…KDMhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10965938190202494720noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1650441826968568496.post-35183121070868376582007-10-10T23:34:00.000-05:002007-10-10T23:39:34.391-05:00“TALKBACK” with Chuck Morse (AM 1280 The Blend - WEIM) "Total Radio for the Heart of New England"October 10, 2007 4:00PM (Central) - “TALKBACK” with Chuck Morse (AM 1280 The Blend - WEIM) "Total Radio for the Heart of New England"<br /><br />During the Interview, the Host (Chuck Morse – happens to be White) stated that the contributions of Blacks in America are truly awe inspiring given the challenges they have had to face. He also felt that given the number of Blacks in high positions (e.g. Senator Barak Obama, Dr. Condoleezza Rice, and a number of other Blacks) people are more informed than they were in the past reference the difference between Whites and Blacks.<br /><br />I basically agreed that people are more informed; however, there is still work to be done… To prove that point, I mentioned the fact that I was once asked within the last 12 months by a White male “Why Black People Shoot Their Guns Sideways”. I stated to this man that I had never seen anyone Black shoot a gun sideways and asked if he had ever personally observed this. He responded that he hadn’t personally observed it but had seen it in the Movies and on TV. Hmmmm….<br /><br />The Interview lasted about 30 minutes with a number of questions and answers. Definitely a good dialogue… Unfortunately, the archive of the Interview is not available at this time. Will let you know when it is.KDMhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10965938190202494720noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1650441826968568496.post-10773517675109401212007-10-04T23:18:00.000-05:002007-10-04T23:27:12.580-05:00“After Midnight” with Rick Barber (News Radio 850 KOA) – DenverOctober 4, 2007 4:00AM (Central) – “After Midnight” with Rick Barber (News Radio 850 KOA) – Denver<br /><br />This was a really good show. We discussed a number of questions. The conversations (from the Host – Rick Barber & Callers) were constructive not destructive or confrontational.<br /><br />Some of the questions were:<br />- Why do Black people use the “N” Word?<br />- Why do Blacks feel it is ok to demean women (e.g. Isaiah Thomas and Music Videos)?<br />- What does “Acting White” mean when Black people say it about each other?<br />- Why is it that White people must watch everything they say so as not to offend anyone?<br /> - Why are Blacks lost in the past?<br /><br /><br />To listen to the archived show, click <a href="http://www.koaradio.com/cc-common/podcast/single_podcast.html?podcast=overnight.xml">LISTEN</a> and look for the below two “Parts”:<br /><br /><strong>Thursday, October 4th 3AM Part 1</strong><br />Our guest this hour: Kevin Moore, motivational speaker, race relations expert and author of <strong>Did You Ever Wonder Why Black People Do the Things They Do?</strong>. We examine the realities behind black stereotypes.<br /><br /><strong>Thursday, October 4th 3AM Part 2</strong><br />The second half of our entertaining and fascinating interview with Kevin D. Moore.KDMhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10965938190202494720noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1650441826968568496.post-85562190991688194582007-10-02T22:14:00.000-05:002007-10-02T22:55:04.223-05:00Upcoming Live Radio InterviewsOctober 3, 2007 3:30PM (Central) – “The ShOw” with Scottie McCall (WBNW 1120AM) – Boston<br /><br />You can listen to the Interview at the below link:<br /><a href="http://www.wbnw1120.com/">http://www.wbnw1120.com/</a><br /><br /><br />October 4, 2007 4:00AM (Central) – “After Midnight” with Rick Barber (News Radio 850 KOA) – Denver<br /><br />You can listen to the Interview at the below link:<br /><a href="http://www.koaradio.com/main.html">http://www.koaradio.com/main.html</a>KDMhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10965938190202494720noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1650441826968568496.post-56363511529317283072007-10-01T22:55:00.000-05:002007-10-01T23:27:51.280-05:00The Sandy Rios Show (Interview) September 28, 2007I definitely enjoyed being a guest on the show. Sandy’s guest line up was interesting. First to be interviewed was me (your’s truly) and then Former Maryland Lt. Gov. Michael Steele, Chairman of GOPAC. Needless to say, given the current events involving race and politics, there was plenty to talk about.<br /><br />Here are some of the questions that were asked of me:<br />- Did I watch the PBS Republican Presidential Candidate Forum (September 27, 2007) and what did I think of it?<br />- What does the Black Community think of Alan Keys the only Black Republican Presidential Candidate?<br />- How do I feel about the fact that Whites in the media (e.g. Bill O’Rielly) must watch everything they say so as not to offend anyone?<br />- How do I feel about Jesse Jackson’s comment about Barak Obama acting White reference the Jena 6 controversy?<br />- What are my feelings reference a great deal of money going to support the War in Iraq when it could be used here in America?<br />- How do I think the U.S. Military did and is doing as far as integration?<br /><br />You can listen to the Interview at the below link:<br /><a href="http://www.culturecampaign.com/WYLL%20archive/Sandy_Rios_WYLL070928a_16kbs.mp3">Download MP3 Fri 09/28/2007 Hour #1:</a> Kevin D. Moore re: his book Did You Ever Wonder Why Black People Do the Things They Do?KDMhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10965938190202494720noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1650441826968568496.post-72801410288377120472007-09-26T22:43:00.000-05:002007-09-26T22:45:05.339-05:00Live Radio Interview - 28 September 2007 4PM (Eastern) / 3PM (Central)On Friday, 28 September 2007 at 4 PM (Eastern) / 3 PM (Central), Kevin D. Moore the Author of "Did You Ever Wonder Why Black People Do The Things They Do?" will be a guest on the Sandy Rios Show – WYLL-AM 1160 "Chicago's Christian Talk". You can listen live at “www.wyll.com” Tune in, should be pretty interesting!KDMhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10965938190202494720noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1650441826968568496.post-448074316966550442007-09-03T01:14:00.000-05:002007-09-03T01:18:31.102-05:00Did You Ever Wonder Why Black People Do The Things They Do?There are approximately 215 million White Americans in the United States that may have seen firsthand, observed on TV, viewed in the Movies, and/or have been told that Black Americans do things that are quite different (e.g. stereotypes and myths) than the things they do. In a politically correct business and social world, many of these differences go unexplained. Unfortunately, these unexplained differences sometime foster a world of miscommunication, misunderstanding, and strife.<br /><br />To help combat these problems, I authored "Did You Ever Wonder Why Black People Do The Things They Do?" The first book in a series of “Wonder Why” books, this book is a quick read, much like the "One Minute Manager" and "Who Moved My Cheese". It is informative, thought provoking, and humorous. I came up with the idea for the book as a result of my travels for business where on many occasions, people whose tans were not as good as mine (Whites) would ask me questions about people with good year long tans (Blacks). Almost to a person, after answering their questions, they recommended that I write a book. At first glance, it may seem that the main purpose of this book is to focus on our differences.<br /><br />For example, some of the questions that were asked and answered were:<br />• Why do black people never wash their hair?<br />• Why do black people have natural rhythm?<br />• Why are some black people so well spoken?<br />• Why do black people use the “N” Word and no one else can?<br /><br />Although, I address these questions and others, the underlying purpose of this book is to show that once the differences are explained and understood the reader will realize that we are all more similar than different thus hopefully bringing us all closer together. It doesn't matter what color you are or where you are from, this book (available wherever books are sold, including online) will foster honest and positive communication between people at a time where understanding and the appreciation of different cultures is so important.<br /><br />Together we can make a difference! Therefore, if you have a question, observation, and/or comment please let the other readers and I know. How can we ever hope to make the world a better place if we don’t talk and communicate with each other openly…KDMhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10965938190202494720noreply@blogger.com1